Jamie Ridler asks us this week:

What do you wish to do one day?

Here are the things I wish to do “some day”:

• Visit Ireland
• Learn Gaelic
• learn to dance hardshoe in Irish dance
• Move to an acreage
• Have a real family
• Go to a Pagan festival

So much is still going on around here, and I am still going SO much more slowly than I want to be, which is frustrating.

Reg was informed, finally, that he will be officially divorced in 31 days (so about Nov 1 or 2nd) –unless of course there is some injunction filed by ex-wife. We are concerned that there might be ongoing issues since the court was unable to rule on custody and visitation — his ex ducked being served over and over and because they were not able to get any sort of opinion on what SHE thinks is fair in terms of visitation with the girls. The court ordered that visitation will occur as per agreement between the parents — which is problematic since they live in different countries and the LAST time they had an agreed to visitation she took matters into her own hands and basically abducted the girls for 8 months. She has proven that he can’t trust her word when it comes to visitations and returning the girls, and since the court did not rule on how visitations will work going forward it means that there is nothing official if she tried to do this again.

This might mean that the girls will not be seeing their mother, great-grandparents, or other family members until they are old enough to make that decision on their own… or never… As much as Reg doesn’t like his ex, and as unstable as she has been (she has lost custody of all 4 of her children now), not being allowed to talk to or visit their mother really does hurt them a lot.